Carolyn Lynch Engelken, 93 of Barnegat, NJ passed away peacefully on July 20, 2020 in Brick, NJ. Carolyn was born in Paterson, New Jersey where she grew up living with her parents and grandparents on 19th Avenue. Her grandparents were from Germany and enjoyed a natural life of herbs and fresh air outings around upstate NY and NJ, especially the NJ shore. They instilled in her a lifelong love of being by the ocean. Carolyn worshipped at St Paul's Lutheran Church and graduated from Eastside High School in Paterson. She studied a business curriculum, followed the high school sports teams and enjoyed swing dancing. Carolyn worked for the telephone company after graduation. On Sept 4, 1948 she married her high school sweetheart, Arthur L Engelken. They moved to Irvington and then to Union, NJ where Arthur was teaching and where they raised their 3 daughters. Carolyn loved creating a loving home, holding family parties and expertly sewing most of her daughter's clothes. After they were grown she went to work at Keene-Stonco where she picked up a skill for using computers. She used her computer as secretary of the Lutheran Women's Missionary League, organized her family tree and communicated through email and video chats. She was particularly proud to be able to stay in touch with her grandchildren by email. Carolyn and Arthur retired to Barnegat NJ where their home was filled with family and friends enjoying the NJ shore Many years were spent traveling the country, Iowa, Texas, Germany, Ireland. Arthur, her husband of over 64 years passed away in January 2013. Carolyn is survived by her sister, Patricia Liedel (spouse Larry), daughters Nancy Incorvia (spouse Richard), Gwen Cleaves (spouse Gerard), Susan Nord (spouse Harry). She has seven grandchildren, Richard, Kevin (spouse Jean Anne), Julie (spouse Matt), Matthew (spouse Pam), Megan, Colleen and Emily (spouse Eric) and six great grandchildren, William, Reagan, Pace, Lilly, Warner and Bodie. Carolyn is also survived by her many loving nieces, nephews, and friends. Donations in lieu of flowers may be made to Grace Hospice https://www.gracehcs.com/donation-program/ Grateful thanks to them for their extraordinary care and compassion. Lutheran Women's Missionary League https://lwmlnj.org/give-to-lwmlnj/